The Importance Of Raising Our Children To Deal With Stress
And individual's response to stress can be modified as early as in the cradle and all during one's upbringing. For example, many of the adults who do poorly under stress share a common mistake during their formative years. They all had parents who tried to “protect” them from all possible stresses that exist. So for example, the “protected” child who has never had to look at a waiter in the eye and order his own food during family outings may never learn to look anyone in the eye during conversations.
This is also one of the reasons why many self-made rich people and famous personalities have severe problems with their children: The parent, having gone through considerable poverty on the way to success, wrongfully assumes that this stress was bad for him or her. The attitude of “I may have started out poor but no child of mine is ever going to have to worry about money” deprives the child of ever learning the value of hard work, and undermines the development of self-esteem and confidence. Although the act is well-intentioned by the parents, the child who is spoiled will certainly become a victim when faced with stress because they never had to face it growing up. Stress is not the enemy, but rather can be your ally if properly managed.
On the other hand, children can be actively raised to manage stress, and develop winning responses that will last a lifetime. These are the children that we see to have leadership and show high levels of self-esteem and confidence at such an early age. This type of upbringing will enable them to be high-achievers throughout life and rise above the crowd in whatever they do.
It is quite obvious that the stresses of publicity that are placed upon a member of the royal family such as Prince Charles are far greater than most people can be expected to endure. His ability to withstand these pressures and stress levels can be directly related to his upbringing. This man was trained from the start of his life in how to handle himself under fire. It would appear that, for this very reason, there is considerable sense in requiring monarchs to marry peers rather than commoners. Princess Diana's upbringing, and the stress of a royal courtship, demonstrated her ability to handle the immense pressures of the spotlight with grace.
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