While some people with low self-esteem are under the impression that it's honest to tell the object of their anger what they think, there is a difference between honesty and the truth. Anger may feel honest to the person experiencing it, but it colors how they view the world, causing them to see it in hostile and threatening ways. Therefore, the judgments that people make when they are angry are frequently far off the mark.

Not only is overt anger unhealthy for building our self-confidence and unhealthy for the person experiencing it, It produces high blood pressure and heart disease. For example, in a number of studies the angriest people had five times more heart disease than the less angry.

Anger damages relationships and is especially destructive for children. Serious turmoil between parents can be the most devastating event that children experience, and it has lasting effects. Children who observe their parents fighting can end up as "unbridled pessimists" who experience more depression. They may see bad events as permanent and pervasive and feel themselves to be responsible.

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