Most women will stop at nothing to further their careers, but though they complain about being alone, they think that going out and looking for a man is degrading. They think it makes them look desperate. And they are wrong. These days you must go out and hunt for romance with the same skill and determination you would muster to look for a job or an apartment.
If you don't like being alone, do something about it! Don't stay home and expect a man to come down your chimney like Santa Claus. It's footwork that counts - being out there, among the people - at parties, supermarkets, theater lines, parks, beaches, restaurants, adult education classes, and ball games - ready, willing, and able to flirt.
Dress sensuously but of course take into account the style that suits you best - cute, sleek, feminine. Sex appeal doesn't mean frilly, girly, or happy homemaker. It is an individual decision. Package yourself to bring out your sensual attributes in a tasteful but alluring manner. There are professional image makers out there who can help you if you have the money, but they aren't needed if you don't. As long as there are magazines, you can cut out pictures of styles you think would enhance your sexual look. Wear clothes that reveal your curves and are sensuous to touch. Make sure your hair is nicely cut as well as silky to the touch. The colors you choose should suit your skin tone and personality. Possibly you could ask a friend to come with you to a fabric store and drape cloth over a white blouse or T-shirt near your face. Your friend can tell you what enhances and what doesn't. Color attracts a man's gaze and will bring him toward you.
Most department stores have face-makeup sessions to sell their products. If you don't have money, get a free one, and write down what the saleswoman says about your face. Don't forget about secondhand consignment shops, especially in rich areas where wealthy women discard last year's wardrobes. Most assistance leagues have thrift stores with great buys in clothes, purses, shoes, and accessories. With or without money, you can enhance your sensual look. Make the effort - it is worth it!
And lastly, go out to at least one social event each week, and when there, flirt just for fun. In the beginning, you will be nervous and clumsy. I suggest you practice some "throwaway" experiences such as flirting in an elevator when you go to see your doctor or dentist. Flirt in the checkout line of a big grocery store where you don't keep seeing the same people every day. Think of these as loosening up or stretching experiences for the moment when you actually do meet someone special.
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