Help! Becoming a parent has taken the zest out of our love life!

The process of “UnMommying” our wives and “UnDaddying” our husbands begins in our minds. This is where the confusion started in the first place. The first thing you need to do is realize that it would be foolish to convince yourselves that you can totally exclude your Mommy and Daddy roles from the relationship. These roles are a part of the reason why most people get married in the first place, for the comfort and security that becoming parents affords you.

Fundamental to making this transition is learning how to merge affection and sex together. In the beginning, when you first met and dated, and even perhaps during the beginning marriage before you had children, affection and sex came to both of you naturally. This is the magic of falling in love, it just comes easy.

Now that you have a family, it is sometimes hard to get back to those familiar roles that attracted you to each other in the first place. But what can be done? Try kissing. Whatever happened to kissing when married couples make love anyways? How about holding hands? When was the last time you took a walk in the park while holding hands? Go out on a date with your spouse. Talk about old times when you first met. Give effort to recreating that exciting sexual bond that you had before becoming “Mommy” and “Daddy”.


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