What do you think about when you hear the phrase “Trust in your marriage?” Trusting in your marriage means to sincerely trust your partner, to be able to reveal yourself, your weaknesses, your failures, and your insecurities.

Such vulnerability can be terrifying, especially after your partner has deeply betrayed you. It is very common to find those fears casting long shadows in the bedroom; the ghost of your partner’s lover or dwelling on ways you believe you have failed in your marriage because of your shortcomings, is very hard to get rid of. But the way to gain back trust is to direct your emotional energies toward rebuilding the intimacy.

Couples who have not made love for a long time cannot use their busy lifestyle as an excuse for further lack of connection. Delaying and postponing intimacy until your stress level dissipates is a cop-out. Life is stressful and there is always something to be busy with.

What you must do is stop rationalizing and start thinking about what you can do right now to get close with your partner. Think about what you used to do when things were happy and it was just the two of you. What do you miss the most and how can you get it back? Spend time together and just talk. By spending intimate time together outside the bedroom, you can begin to regain the intimate time inside.


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