The Blame Game: A Great Way To Hinder Your Personal Growth & Success

Self-blame and blaming others are resistances that block your success. Blame, like fear and doubt, drains your energy and prevents you from moving ahead and facing challenges. One reason why people do not grow, move ahead, make changes in their lives, or take responsibility is because they blame themselves for falling short of reaching a valued goal. Relationship disharmony, career dissatisfaction, and family conflict are a few examples of symptoms which can result from unfulfilled goals. Taking responsibility for those actions you do take, rather than blaming yourself for inaction, is one way to create opportunities for growth and fulfill your goals.

When you take personal responsibility for your thoughts and actions, you act courageously and are not immobilized. When you act on your greatest dream, whether it's achieving status as a great sports figure, participating in the Olympic games, becoming a hero or heroine like NASA's courageous astronauts, graduating from college, becoming a successful entrepreneur, doctor, or dynamic speaker, or loving others with optimum emotional impact, take action. Overcome the curse of inaction by thrusting yourself forward. Become an active participant in determining the outcome of your own life.

Depending too heavily on others for self-support is a resistance that sabotages your taking action. Self-sabotaging beliefs and emotions limit you from taking risks and prevent you from learning how to grow and change. If you have difficulty taking action then you not only blame yourself, but blame others, especially when situations don't conform to your expectations. Self-blame results in self-pity while personal responsibility results in action and change.

A person who/lacks self-esteem and needs support from others is lacking the essential qualities that promote survival self-support. When an individual is frozen in an outmoded way of acting, he is less capable of meeting any of his survival needs, including his social needs. Blaming others, and not accepting responsibility for your action, is a resistance to change and a form of denial.

Your manipulations of self-blame and blaming others are directed towards preserving and cherishing your handicaps rather than getting rid of them. Self blamers put the blame for their behavior on themselves as opposed to holding themselves responsible. When people take the blame for their behavior, this is just as unproductive as placing the blame on external factors. People who blame themselves are filled with blame, guilt, worry, shame, and doubt. They use all their energies blaming themselves and have no energies left to get out of their self-created ruts.


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